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The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
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2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you touch safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
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3. Rel
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Gay and bisexual men living in the Netherlands reported intense rush, less sexual inhibition, pleasure and kinship among the perceived benefits of slamming in a master thesis titled ‘Meth, Sex, Health and Pleasure’ from Utrecht University.
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For heterosexuals, gay sex might be something of an enigma.
There may be many who acquire no clue as to how lgbtq+ men actually hold sex and the quirks that reach with it.
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Gay people in general are much more well-versed in heterosexual sexual practices due to the educational and cultural bias toward straight people in this area.
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1. It takes preparation
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The Gay Man and the Pleasure Shocks
In The Human Subject, Dr Adam Rutherford and Dr Julia Shaw investigate the threads connecting modern day medicine to its often brutal origins.
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Intimacy collapse: Temporality, pleasure, and embodiment in lgbtq+ hook-up app use
Authors
DOI:
https://doi.org/10.5210/fm.v27i1.10812
Keywords:
hook-up apps, gay, intimacy, context collapse
Abstract
This article maps key tensions in contemporary, mediatized homosexual male sexual culture by focusing on hook-up app use. Based on numbers generated through a situated and visual interview approach, the paper gather experiences from hook-up app users in the U.K. Concerned with how understandings and usage of hook-up apps are bound up with normative evaluations of their ability to produce “good” intimacy, I suggest integrating analysis of practice and infrastructural capacities with critical intimacy theory. This is captured in the idea intimacy collapse of which I examine three types: one between immediacy and foresight, another between organic and representational pleasure objects, and a third between personal and social acts of looking. The investigation demonstrates that intimacy collapses in hook-up apps make new (in)visibilities, anxieties and opportunities that are